These days human race seems to have very low threshold for pain. When we are hurt or we go through a loss, we want to escape this pain by lashing out, by complaining, by inflicting pain on others.
In an attempt to escape pain we indulge in activities that prolong and even intensify pain in the long run instead of assuage it. Addiction, porn, aggression hoarding stuff we don’t really need, staying stuck in abusive or even haram relationships are such examples of getting caught in the quagmire of constant and continuous pain.
What actually needs to be done is observing, acknowledging, accepting the pain to honor the loss or the experience.
There is no escapee from pain. It will take its due course and subside if you don’t make futile attempts to escape it.
Stay with the pain, feel the hurt, accept and acknowledge the experience and it will taper down making you stronger in the end.
Munira Ahmed
Parenting and Relationship Coaching