Becoming a positive parent sometimes seems extra challenging, testing and demanding. You are mad and feel like shouting at the top of your lungs but you know deep inside that you are not supposed to do that .
Today was a little hard for me today. I was busy doing some chores and my kids aged 5 and 2 were busy playing. For mothers of more than one child it is one of the biggest blessings of Allah if the kids get along well. It gives mothers some extra me time. My both kids were playing, everything seemed normal until I entered my room and saw big stains of pink paint on my bed and pillow cover 
😫, at first I was like 
😵(bye the way I am a very calm person by nature). I couldn’t guess what had happened and then I saw a wet crocodile (my son’s favorite stuffed toy) lying nearby
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🙈. He had painted it pink yesterday. He didn’t like the color so he wanted that to be green again. So he washed the crocodile and put it on the bed🐊 to dry. The left over pink paint left big stains all over.
I said “Ahmad what is this?” He explained that how he didnt like the pink paint on his green croc and wanted that to be green again. He apologized and left the room. It didn’t stop there.
After making the bed, I went outside and saw Ahmad holding his croc wrapped in my favorite kurta🐊
👚 which I had spread on the sofa after pressing, to be hanged later on. Kurta was all dyed pink
☄☄. I felt like crying out louder at that time 
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😭. I took a deep breath to be in control. I lied on bed and hid my face under pillow. I didn’t want to give him a lecture because I knew I would not be able to talk normally
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😷
🤕
🤧
🤐.
I knew I would go berserk. I needed a time out. I asked Ahmed to leave me alone for a while.
AHMAD identified that he had done something awful. He refused to leave and said that he would stay with me no matter what, he was apologizing continuously and patting my back meanwhile my daughter was tickling under my feet in order to make me laugh. It melted my heart .
I got up with a smile on my face, Ahmad and Inaya also started smiling. ‘Mama I am sorry I didn’t mean to do that. I will get you new clothes. I have lots of coins.”
I was like, its alright U ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANYTHING.
“Just make sure u ask mama before taking any such thing.”
It was really not so easy but at the end we both learnt something. ALHUMDULILLAH
I m feeling so serene, composed and accomplished while typing this.
It could be a worst day for myself and my kids too if I had lost my temper.
Beginning to be a Positive Parent and an emotionally intelligent person is one of the biggest favors of Allah and best thing is we all can learn it. If you are not one, learn these skills and be one.
P.s. do not put your best clothes on sofa because you never know
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And
Never forget KIDS ARE MOST IMPORTANT.
Amina Malik